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Cognitive dissonance and social media

1/16/2023

 
The real reason why social media might be making you feel bad
by Victoria Pitz, LPMHC
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Cognitive dissonance is the feeling of discomfort one feels when your thoughts or feelings about ourselves do not align with our actions.

Social media tends to exacerbate this phenomenon at an overwhelming rate. It perpetuates the feelings of “should”. I should be having more fun, I should be doing what they’re doing, I shouldn’t be feeling the way that I feel…It can be difficult to recognize the direct damage social media does to your self-esteem because it has become so ingrained in our daily lives.

So how might social media trigger cognitive dissonance? 

Perhaps you are not feeling your best lately. Things just don’t seem to be going your way; maybe you experienced something that shook you up. Life just feels awful and overwhelming right now.You scroll through social media when you're bored. Half the time you don’t even realize how long you’ve been scrolling for. But your brain is taking note:

"Wow. So-and-so went to Paris; why can’t I do that?"
"Look, this person got their dream job, but I’m still stuck in one that I hate."
"How nice, this person goes out every weekend and has a blast, here I am, feeling like cr*p."
To compensate, you too, snap a photo and post on social media. It is easy to create an illusion online. When others see your insta page, they will notice how incredibly happy and full of life you seem. 
 
While likes and comments might give us a temporary hit of dopamine, this habit can further fuel the fire of cognitive dissonance- we are being praised for promoting a reality that doesn’t actually align with how we feel. 
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​​This experience of cognitive dissonance that you feel can perpetuate feelings of guilt and shame— “My life looks so great on my instagram page, I shouldn’t be feeling depressed.” So, like many of us, you keep the posts going without addressing what’s really going on underneath, causing more and more disconnect from your authentic self as time goes on.

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If this resonates with you, there are a few things you might want to consider:
 
Taking a break from social media. Easier said than done, right? Even just taking a few hours away from mindless scrolling can help. You can set time limits on your device. Start small by decreasing it by an hour for a few days and notice how it makes you feel.
 
Consider unfollowing accounts that make trigger a sense of comparison. Instead, trying adding on to your strengths— follow accounts that fill you up and make you feel good.
 
Similarly, if you choose to continue to share content, consider sharing things that feel authentic to you. Avoid the filters and #trends, share something that helps the real you shine.
​Lastly and most importantly, take some time to reflect on how you are feeling. How do you feel in your daily life? What is the most prominent emotion that comes up for you? Notice when you feel the urge to scroll mindlessly through social media, distraction could be a defense mechanism to keep you from thinking about what’s actually bothering you. When do you feel the urge to post something? If you do post, does it bring you further away from how you are currently feeling? How might others perceive you online versus in person?
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 If any of this information speaks to you, consider bringing it up with your therapist. Therapy can be a great space to take time for yourself to process and reflect on how you are feeling.
 
Resources:
https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-cognitive-dissonance-2795012

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